From frustration to freedom in 90 days

Do you have clients who keep showing up with the same problems week after week?

Do you feel like you’ve hit a wall, knowing you have the knowledge to help but you just can’t seem to get through to them?

Do you wish you could empower your clients to take action and create real change in their lives?

I’m a coach & over the last few years, many of my clients come to me after they drop out of therapy. So I’ve had front row seats to hear what isn’t connecting. When I first started working 1:1 with coaching clients, I had many of the same frustrations and hit many of the same walls. I started burning out and telling stories in my head about how my clients were just too unmotivated. Then, I decided to take responsibility – and I completely overhauled the skills I taught. Now my texts are filled with celebrations and gratitude from clients.

Here’s how I turned this frustration around and started getting powerful results with my clients. This is the first half of a system I now teach to therapists to help them fill in the missing gaps with their clients so they can start seeing real, lasting transformation.

Step 1 — Establish internal safety

Many clients are terrified of their own thoughts &sensations because they've been taught to identify with them. Every time they have a distressing thought or a strange physical symptom, they think, "There’s something wrong with me." The first step is breaking this identification so they can observe their mental and physical states objectively. This creates a sense of safety and distance, allowing them to process what they’re experiencing without letting it define who they are.

Step 2 — Empower action

There’s a downside to the therapist-client dynamic that isn’t discussed enough: the default setup places the therapist as the "expert" and the client as the "broken one." This perpetuates a sense of helplessness in the client’s nervous system. To create real change, we need to empower clients to take action from the start. When they shift into an empowered state, they can take responsibility for their own healing and begin to actively make change.

Step 3 — Build capacity

Nervous system capacity is the foundation of true change. It's the ability to process intense emotional and physical states. Most people, even highly functional ones, have a limited capacity to do this. This limitation is often the root cause of why they feel stuck. They need simple, effective techniques to increase capacity on a neurobiological level. This is the key to helping clients move from feeling stuck to thriving.

In resilience,

Caitlin