"I know what I should do, I'm just not doing it."

We've all been there. I hear it on calls with clients on a regular basis, and in casual conversations all the time

In fact, this exact problem was what got me started in my work over a decade ago.

I was a certified yoga teacher, I knew all about the benefits of breathing, exercise, healthy diet and supportive relationships - but I wasn't doing any of it.

I wanted to - I really did. I had problems that needed fixing - anxiety, major panic attacks, brain fog, obsessive behaviors, and I knew logically what I should do to get my body and mind back on track. But I just wasn't.

I would stop to take some deep breaths and my whole body would tense up. I would make a plan to get outside and get exercise, and my body would feel so weak that I could barely get out of bed. I would think about reaching out to a friend, but I just couldn't bring myself to pick up the phone.

So at first I got really frustrated. Why can't I do the things I know will help me feel better?

And then, when I was tired of feeling frustrated, I got curious, and I decided to just listen.

When I sat still and listened without judgement, there was a tiny, weak but insistent voice that said "I just can't."

I could have chosen to argue with this voice or bash it for being lazy, but I'd tried that already and it was a dead end.

So instead, I kept being curious. I learned to move with that little voice instead of moving against it.

"Ok, I hear you. You just can't. Got it. That's ok! ....

Hypothetically, if there was one thing you could do, what might that look like?"

And that's how I found my first "I can." And I kept adding to that "I can" little bit by little bit until eventually I was back on my feet, meditating for an hour every day, running mountain trails, diving into a powerful breathing and cold immersion practice that put my nervous system on a path of deep healing.

If you could use some help bridging the gap between all the things you know you should be doing and what you're actually doing - let's talk!


In resilience,
Caitlin